What has "not wanting to do something" have to do with it?

Hello,

Over the years I have connected to many wonderful people who have helped me become a better person. This has been through just meeting them, becoming friends with them, using their professional services or any combination of the above.

As I look over the last year, the most significant events have been very much tempered by these connections. Those events that could have been mediocre flourished and those that could have been disastrous were mostly rendered benign. I have an long list of things and people I am grateful for. (more on that in the future post).

I was working with one of these connections yesterday in a coaching session and something very profound came up for me which I really want to share.

We were discussing my reluctance to taking action in an area I knew was vitally important to my future. In response. my coach asked this $2M question: "What has 'not wanting to do something' have to do with it? This hit me right between the eyes. My surprised and immediate answer was, "Nothing". Just at that moment, the entire area of self-created avoidance came to view. I realized that this was the source of all past reluctance, and all the upset and turmoil I created connected to it. I had falsely connected liking something with it's importance. There is no such connection.

The point here is what I like is based on my personal opinion. What is important is not, It is based on fact. Moreover, what is important in life is not personal to me, it is personal to those I am connected to. When I serve a customer, they are the most important, not me. What I like or dislike about them or their behavior is completely irrelevant.

To quote the powerful Rotary motto, I am now getting very excited discovering all the ways I can put "Service Above Self".

Cheers,

Malcolm