Hello,
Its Valentine's weekend, and with the day itself falling on a Sunday, I'm sure many of you are enjoying a wonderfully extended time experiencing exciting activities with your sweetheart(s)!
As this is the weekend we traditionally celebrate love in all it's guises, it seems appropriate to share some thoughts on Love.
There are many different ideas about what love is. In fact, it may well be the most misunderstood subjects there is. Going right back to basics, my favorite definitions of love is "The degree of closeness to". For me, this really delineates the essence of Love.
One issue that comes up in my clients and my own life is "love of self". For most people, loving oneself appears to be very self-centered and unfeeling of others. Well, is that really true? If we take the principle that you are your own best friend, would you not want to be very close to yourself? For me, that sort of stands to reason.
So why is it so many feel almost the complete opposite about themselves, even to the point of loathing? The core reasons may be many and varied, but I believe it is a completely curable condition.
One exercise I find really improves this ability is described below:
'Once a day stand in front of a mirror, look into your own eyes and repeat out loud "I love myself infinitely" in different mood levels. Do this until you experience a significant rise in your own mood. Build the duration up on a gradient to being able to do the exercise comfortably for ten minutes. (If you have issues with your own physical body image, consider doing the entire exercise naked)'
I wonder if any of you are brave enough to do this consistently? I would love to hear your results!
Love to all.
Have a wonderful Valentine's day!
Malcolm
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